Tuesday, December 6, 2011

Conditional Love

I found it interesting to discover in my research that being raised by narcissistic parents and being donor conceived leads to some very similar issues that the children face.

Low self esteem. Eagerness to please. Self-destructive behavior. Substance abuse.

Both situations involve a substantial barrier to parents being able to love these children unconditionally - exactly and precisely for who they are. A narcissist is unable to love and uses his children as a prop, an extension of the self, and source of narcissistic supply. The non-biological parent(s) of the donor conceived may do their best and even truly love the child - but despite the child's strange and mysterious features, aptitudes, temperament, and not for them. The children must pick up on that.

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